Married and Counting

Happy Valentine's Day

2012-02-14T06:05:00.001-08:00

A year ago on Valentine's weekend, Pat & Stephen got married in Massachusetts. As a wedding present, they received an ice-skating lesson. Here's a sneak peek.

Sneak Peek: California

2012-02-08T17:39:00.000-08:00

In honor of yesterday's ruling on Prop 8, here's another sneak peek.

Happy Anniversary, Iowa

2012-01-22T12:54:00.000-08:00

One year ago today, Pat and Stephen were married in Iowa. Here's a sneak peek from the movie.
http://youtu.be/OvujASKL7xU

In 8 years, a long distance traveled

2012-01-06T14:39:00.000-08:00

"We have to understand that in this world two people can be deeply in love, and that if they have that kind of commitment they should be permitted to be married.

Now, to say that you've got to go from state to state to achieve that right absolutely vitiates who we are as a nation."- Congressman Dennis Kucinich, January 6, 2004.

Eight years ago, when Congressman Kucinich was running for President, his pro-marriage equality position put him far outside the mainstream. Although his description of a couple having to "go from state to state to achieve that right" seems to describe a multi-state journey like Pat and Stephen's, in January, 2004 there were no marriage equality states to go to. When Massachusetts became the first, later that year, most of the country was shocked that any state would allow same-sex marriage.

Less than a decade later, support for marriage equality has gone from being a wild, fringe position to a mainstream view. Six states and the District of Columbia allow same-sex marriage. More Americans now support equality than oppose it. A growing number are shocked not that there are so many marriage equality states but that there are so few. On Monday, Gov. Chris Gregoire will introduce a bill to make Washington the seventh state.

Like any extended road-trip, the state-by-state progress of marriage equality often feels agonizingly slow, but it's nice to look back and see what a tremendous distance we have already traveled.

Happy New Hampshire Anniversary

2011-12-05T11:19:00.000-08:00

A year ago today, Pat and Stephen celebrated their third wedding on a covered bridge in New Hampshire. In 2009, New Hamphsire became the fifth state to permanently legalize same-sex marriage. However, conservative lawmakers are currently working to overturn the law.

This clip is an excerpt from Stephen and Pat's New Hampshire wedding. You can wish them a happy anniversary by leaving a comment on this post.

Sneak Peak: Vermont

2011-12-04T14:09:00.000-08:00

One Year Ago: The Wedding Tour Begins

2011-12-04T11:25:00.000-08:00

One year ago today, Stephen and Pat launched a cross-country "Wedding Tour," to celebrate 25 years together, and make a statement for marriage equality, by getting married in every state that would let them. On December 4, 2010, they were married in a Vermont farm house. If you support their mission, please wish them a Happy Anniversary by commenting on this post.

In the Family

2011-11-06T09:41:00.000-08:00

Supporters of Married and Counting should go see the new, award-winning film, In the Family, playing a limited engagement at the Quad Cinema in New York. It is a powerful, beautiful story about civil rights and what constitutes a family. It has received rave reviews from the New York Times, Variety, and the Village Voice. It is only playing through Thursday, so see it while you can.

National Coming Out Month

2011-10-11T07:45:00.000-07:00

October is National Coming Out Month, and this month we want your help to let the movie come out. We are on track to have a premiere in early 2012, but we need to build a fan base. Please help us reach our goal of 100 new Facebook likers this month, and at least 1 new Twitter follower this week.

This movie has been made possible by the generosity and enthusiasm of a supportive community. Please add your voice to the struggle for equality by becoming a fan and encouraging your friends to do so as well.

This is the Facebook link.

This is the Twitter link.

Thank you.

Allan Piper, director of Married and Counting

Help Us Finish the Movie

2011-07-21T09:23:00.000-07:00

Our documentary is almost done, but we could use a little help to complete and promote it. Stephen and Pat have chosen to make public the most intimate moments of their lives to make a statement that all people should have equal rights. You can choose to be part of that statement. Please consider giving even a few dollars via IndieGoGo.

Within minutes of launching our fundraising campaign, we received our first contribution from Daniel Tamez. Daniel, we are grateful for your support.

Marriage Now Legal for Everyone in New York

2011-06-25T06:50:00.000-07:00

As of June 24, 2011 New York is a marriage equality state. This movie suddenly has a new ending, as Pat and Stephen can finally get married in the state they call home.

Wedding Photos/Videos Needed

2011-06-21T06:46:00.000-07:00

We need your wedding photos/videos for a sequence in the movie. We want both straight and gay couples of a variety of ages and ethnicities. If you have pictures or footage you'd like to contribute, please email us at marriedandcounting@gmail.com. If they are old photos of your parents or grandparents, that's even better. Thanks!

Last Stop!

2011-04-25T04:28:00.000-07:00

This week, as Pat and Stephen celebrate 25 years together, the Wedding Tour will end with their final nuptials in Washington, DC. The documentary, Married and Counting will be complete later this year. We will keep you up-to-date on where and when you can see it.

In the mean time, you can support the film by sharing the TRAILER with your friends, and by encouraging them to become fans on FACEBOOK.

Married and Counting

2011-03-14T10:26:00.001-07:00

For nearly twenty-five years, Pat Dwyer and Stephen Mosher have been living in sin. Although their quarter-century relationship already has outlasted the average American marriage, it is less legally legitimate than that of two drunken strangers who marry in Vegas. But now that several states have passed marriage equality laws, Mosher and Dwyer are ready to make honest men of each other. One fine Saturday, they march out of their apartment in Hell’s Kitchen, New York, load up a van with a dozen wedding guests and drive to a friend's Vermont farm to get married. However, they don’t stop there.

In lieu of a honeymoon, the newlyweds launch a cross-country "wedding tour," re-marrying in every state that will let them: New Hampshire, Iowa, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and even California (where gay marriage is in limbo). The trip will culminate on their twenty-fifth anniversary, when they will marry in Washington, DC, outside the Supreme Court.

Married and Counting is part political documentary, chronicling the ongoing nationwide struggle to define what constitutes a marriage, and part road-trip romantic comedy, telling the story of a funny, charismatic couple, coping with the stress of planning seven weddings in as many states. Most of all, it is a love story of two men who for twenty-five years have committed themselves to each other, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, and who are willing to take on any challenge to let America know that their marriage counts.